I am driving and listening to this FM station (one of my fave station actually) and they have this contest for the “baddest chick on air” and on social media they will post a picture of the “bad chick” of that day. A photo that shows how bad ass she is, that on my personal opinion is kind of provocative. And that made me ask myself? Why do girls today wanted to be called “bad girls” like the song of Leighton Meister says “good girls gone bad” why do girls wanted to be called hot rather than beautiful? What is wrong with being proper and suddenly being wild is cooler? Whew! that just made me feel a decade older than my actual age. lol!
Just to explore more on the word provocative, again on my personal opinion for girls to be provocative she doesn’t have to show skin or part of her body she can be provocative in actions or words or through the way she dress. Just to clarify ok. And I am speaking subjectively, only my opinion.
And going back to my question “why?” I am asking that question not because I am overly conservative or I am such a "manang" because believe me I AM NOT MANANG. heheh its just that as we modernize the way we think or as we widen our perspective there are old standards in life that should still be considered even if we are already living in the 21st century. So are you a 21st century girl? On my personal observation (again this makes me feel century old…will say it anyway) girls today prefer to be called:
BAD GIRL- just like in that contest on air. Girls will line up to be called the baddest chick? why? What kind of girls wanted to be branded as as Bad Girl? I know! I know its just a contest! But still…. I wonder what bad girl means? Does it mean she don’t obey rules, she is not under the authority of a leader, she is against the flow, she has her own rule which is “NO RULE.” Who wants to live with a bad girl anyway? who wants to be a friend to a person who find rules as hindrance? Being branded as such is never cool, no one is looking for a bad friend, bad daughter, bad sister, bad wife, bad mother mother and a bad person.
HOT CHICK- ok! first of all I have nothing against girls who wants to be sexy and feel good about themselves, I am all for that! I wanna be physically good looking also. I also wear swimsuit or skirts or shorts, but on a proper avenue. What I am trying to grasp is why we girls prefer to be called sexy or seductive than beautiful and pretty? Why do we package ourselves in a provocative way? who’s attention are we trying to get? Are we trying to attract Pervy-perveson or Manyakals (pardon the jologs term hehehe)? I have learned from girls I look up to, if you want to attract decent guys, be decent. Prince Charming is looking for a Princess not a hot chick. What I am trying to say is instead of attracting guys with the way we look, why not be noticed by our beautiful soul and attitude? If you ask me I wanna be noticed by a man who does not only look for a beautiful face or body, but for the whole package, meaning more than what meets the eye.
DRAMA QUEEN- girls who is caught up with needless drama in life. Stirring up controversy and drama for no reason at all. I wanna blame media, but hey its still the person’s decision to be like that right? Again I will never understand why girls wanted to get attention by being overly dramatic on situations that we can settle with simple communication and not blow things out of proportion. If there are issues that needs to be settled, pray to God to help you deal with it, go to your leader or someone who will understand and help you resolve it. Making a scene will not help, instead it can make things worst. The only award Drama Queen gets is more drama in life. #nakakatoxic
WILD ONES - Girls that want to be known that they can drink more bottles of vodka than their guy friends, that they are “go” for anything, that she can be bold in her ways even if its inappropriate, girls that proves that she can finish more boxes of cigarette than anyone else (baka akala niya chimney siya?), girls with countless stories of her “escapades”, dresses like there is a party at the beach every single day and curses or says bad words in the beginning and/or end of her sentence. Don’t get me wrong, I do know how to have a good time, I know how to have fun, but like everything else “too much” of anything is just wrong. I was just thinking if we spend our younger days being wild and free will we be ready for the future? will we be able to tell stories to our future children that we can be proud of? You can be noticed and be beautiful with the right amount of strength, boldness and fun!
I just wanna let you girls know that you are beautiful, attractive and worthy to be noticed. No matter what your past or present situation is, God wants you to know that you are perfect. That you don’t need to be noticed by being a person full of drama, you can be beautiful rather than hot, that its also freeing to be appropriate and that its better to be known as a good person and be respected.
In 1 Timothy 2:9-10 (Msg) it says “And I want women to get in there with the men in humility before God, not primping before a mirror or chasing the latest fashions but doing something beautiful for God and becoming beautiful doing it.”
Don’t get me wrong I am not stereo-typing girls. I am just saying that we can change this. That being a modern lady is not bad at all. We can be independent yet still needs to be taken cared of. That 21st century girls does what she says she believes in, knows that she is beautiful regardless of her skin, shape, what she wears and her past. That 21st century girls in spite of her busy schedule she has time to prepare for her future partner and family. That she is never defined by her mistakes instead she will be known for her heart and soul.
21st century girls know that Christ is alive and opens her life so He who redeemed and restored her can work mightily in her life and to the people around her. In God there is nothing for you to prove, in fact He is the one who will prove that you are worthy of His attention. Allow God to deal with your heartbreak or rejection in the past so you can receive the identity that Christ has given you.
As a woman of today let us all be careful in the way we project our self. There is always a right venue for your endeavors, trust me! Smile pretty lady!
He told them, “You don’t get to know the time. Timing is the Father’s business. What you’ll get is the Holy Spirit. And when the Holy Spirit comes on you, you will be able to be my witnesses in Jerusalem, all over Judea and Samaria, even to the ends of the world.” (Acts 1:7-8 MSG)
The how, when and where of the anwers to our prayer is God’s business. On the other hand its our job to trust Him. Allow the holy spirit to give us patience, understanding (even its really confusing), hope (when it really seem hopeless) and increase our faith (even our circumstance makes it difficult for us to believe). Your situation right now will be your testimony tomorrow. Your trials today will become encouragement for others someday.
Back and forth they talked. “Didn’t we feel on fire as he conversed with us on the road, as he opened up the Scriptures for us?” (Luke 24:32 MSG)
Constant communication with God is what sets our hearts on fire. It will keep on burning as he reveals His word for us everyday. When we are tired His word will spark a new strength, when confused His word will light up a new understanding, when frustrated God can fire up new hope in our heart. To remain in His presence, through prayer and devotion, will keep the fire in our heart.
Photo and Text by Duane Michals, below it reads:
"This photograph is my proof. There was that afternoon by the lake, when things were still good between us. And she lay her head on my shoulder and my arm round her and we were so happy. We looked upon a horizon full of love and possibilities. It did happen. She did love me. Look… see for yourself!"
Its amazing how this photo by Duane Michals pulls the right strings on me to feel in-love and sad at the same time. As romantic this photo at first glance, his caption below it puts me in a melancholic state for a while. He says its his “proof” that at one point in time he and his lady were so in love with each other. That there was time they know that the love they shared was true… this photo was his proof. A reminder that it really did happened. Maybe because no matter how many the happy times were, bad times can easily catch up with it and disregard the other. This photo just tells a lot of story in my head… you think so?
I will be forever grateful to a friend that gave me an opportunity to be part of their team as wedding photographer. Even before I always say that “I love weddings” maybe its the dressing up part, the food, the party, the tears, the laughs and the loving warmth in it that i like (aside from the thought that I will also have my special day someday!! *wink). And just by looking at this photo, as a proof of love, gave me a different perspective in taking wedding photos. The excitement and the thrill in our bride’s smile never fails to bring out the inner glow in her. And by that simple smile or wink from her, you will know she is in love. That love makes her glow and become even more beautiful than she can ever imagine. And every moment captured becomes their proof as well. Every frame as a bride or groom or as a couple becomes their proof that it was their happiest day being in love and loved.
There are so many moments in a wedding day, and I could only wish to capture all of it. But I will never stop trying. Because now I know that someday it will be their PROOF that it was a perfect day, a happy day, a lovely day that they vowed to be together in front of family and friends. Hopefully, when bad days come their proof of love will remind them why they should keep on fighting to be together. It did happen!